Teach The Children!

Just a week before Christmas I had a visitor. This is how it happened. I just finished the household chores for the night and was preparing to go to bed, when I heard a noise in the front of the house. I opened the door to the front room and to my surprise, Santa himself stepped out next to the fireplace.

"What are you doing?" I started to ask. The words choked up in my throat and I saw he had tears in his eyes. His usual jolly manner was gone. Gone was the eager, boisterous soul we all know. He then answered me with a simple statement . . .

"TEACH THE CHILDREN!" I was puzzled. What did he mean? He anticipated my question and with one quick movement brought forth a miniature toy bag from behind the tree. As I stood bewildered, Santa said, "Teach the children!

Teach them the old meaning of Christmas. The meaning that now-a-days Christmas has forgotten. "Santa then reached in his bag and pulled out a FIR TREE and placed it before the mantle. "Teach the children that the pure green color of the stately fir tree remains green all year round, depicting the everlasting hope of mankind, all the needles point heavenward, making it a symbol of man's thoughts turning toward heaven."

He again reached into his bag and pulled out a brilliant STAR. "Teach the children that the star was the heavenly sign of promises long ago. God promised a Savior for the world, and the star was the sign of fulfillment of His promise."

He then reached into his bag and pulled out a CANDLE. "Teach the children that the candle symbolizes that Christ is the light of the world, and when we see this great light we are reminded of He who displaces the darkness."

Once again he reached into his bag and removed a WREATH and placed it on the tree. "Teach the children that the wreath symbolizes the real nature of love. Real love never ceases. Love is one continuous round of affection."

He then pulled from his bag an ORNAMENT of himself. "Teach the children that I, Santa Claus, symbolize the generosity and good will we feel during the month of December."

He then brought out a HOLLY LEAF. "Teach the children that the holly plant represents immortality. It represents the crown of thorns worn by our Savior. The red holly berries represent the blood shed by Him.

Next he pulled from his bag a GIFT and said, "Teach the children that God so loved the world that he gave his begotten son." Thanks be to God for his unspeakable gift.

Santa then reached in his bag and pulled out a CANDY CANE and hung it on the tree. "Teach the children that the candy cane represents the shepherds' crook. The crook on the staff helps to bring back strayed sheep to the flock. The candy cane is the symbol that we are our brother's keeper."

He reached in again and pulled out an ANGEL. "Teach the children that it was the angels that heralded in the glorious news of the Savior's birth. The angels sang Glory to God in the highest, on earth peace and good will toward men."

Suddenly I heard a soft twinkling sound, and from his bag he pulled out a BELL,. "Teach the children that as the lost sheep are found by the sound of the bell, it should ring mankind to the fold. The bell symbolizes guidance and return.

Santa looked back and was pleased. He looked back at me and I saw that the twinkle was back in his eyes. He said, "Remember, teach the children the true meaning of Christmas and do not put me in the center, for I am but a humble servant of the One that is, and I bow down to worship him, our LORD, our GOD."

Matthew 1:18-21

"This is how the birth of Jesus Christ came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins."

Bruised But Not Broken

Psalm 139: 13-14 "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Do you ever feel like you are an outcast? Like something is wrong with the way you look. Do you perceive yourself as grotesque or worthless? I have ready many things on the Internet and seen many things on t.v. where people, especially women, are hating themselves from an outer perspective but really the inside needs to be healed in order to move forward. The demons from the past need to be dealt with head on in order to conquer the future.

My past self esteem was not too rosy. I grew up not liking several things about myself. I was too tall, a big nose, big feet, and too skinny. I didn't like being the tallest girl in class. I towered over the boys and felt awkward. I felt that no boy in the world would ever like me. I didn't go to a bunch of school dances or activities because of the way I stuck out like a sore thumb. I missed part of my childhood because I stayed in the house which was my safe haven. I didn't have a boyfriend until college but it was already too late for my self esteem. I was broken inside. No matter how much my mother told me how beautiful I was, I couldn't see it. She was supposed to say that because she is my mother. I didn't feel accepted by men until I got older. I didn't just want a man to uplift my self esteem but I did want acceptance. Then I thought acceptance would make me feel better. I learned different. I had to learn for myself that self esteem begins with self.

The people in my past have moved on with their life and probably don't remember my name. So why was I holding on to them? They had said some things that I didn't like or hurt my feelings that stuck with me throughout the years. Did they care? No. Did they apologize? No. Did they know they hurt me? Probably not.

So what would it take for me to build up my self esteem? A man in my life? A modeling contract? A star in Hollywood? NO! A realization that God made me in HIS image, not the world's. I didn't learn or absorb this until a few years ago. What I had to realize is that it wasn't about my physical appearance now but it was about my emotional strings tugging at my spirit that were attached to my past. I had to find the courage to cut them loose. I can't say that reading the bible and all the scriptures cured me right then and there but it took some time to heal those wounds. I had to realize that His ways are not my ways and His thoughts are not my thoughts. I thought I was a mistake but God thinks of me as His child whom He loves and has a plan for. God is love and if I was made in His image, I was made in love. God doesn't make mistakes. He was right on the money with me. No one in the world can understand the mixture that went into making me but my God. He is the potter and I am the clay. He molded me this way. So why am I hating on myself AND Him?

The Lord is now using my painful past experience to teach others about self love. I am glad He is using me now and He knew all along that I would come out victorious! So how about you? Are you feeling insignificant or unattractive? Is your past painful or comments from others still hurting you? I heard many people say let go and let God but that is easier said than done. I do want to profess that the devil is a liar and he will use any negative tactic to get you to not see what God says about you. Choose to believe God today and everyday about what He says you are, made in His image. That is a great comparison all by itself! If you need to seek professional help, do so. There is no shame in it. Also seek spiritual help. God hears and and knows you. He feels your pain. Don't just endure an unhealthy mental state with temporary solutions but seek God for everlasting results that will have you jumping for joy! You have to heal from the inside out and God will see you through. You need to do what you have to do in order to be in line with God's purpose. Believe what God says about you and do not conform to this world. God has the last and most significant word in everything and even about you. Don't lose hope.

Father in Heaven, I pray for the healing of all who read this post. I pray for intense spiritual guidance and mending of a broken spirit. I pray to you, oh precious God, that you will come into their lives with a renowned sense of self esteem that will blow through their lives with a passionate response from them. I pray that their confidence is greater within themselves and you. I pray that they see past outward appearances that can fade and look within for a loving soul that is full of your grace. I pray that they will have a deaf ear towards negativity in the world and negative people will disappear from their life. I pray that when they look in the mirror they see you. They see the love that you have shown them and the love that they are made of. I pray that they only see the good in themselves. I pray that they forget the horrible past of upsets and disappointments but only remember the beautiful person that they are. Help them realize that there is a bright future ahead of them. Father I pray this sincere prayer for everyone who has been damaged by worldly comments and false prophecies. Please protect and heal as only you can. Thank you in advance.

In Jesus name, Amen.

YES WE CAN & YES WE DID!!!

VOTE!!!

Please go VOTE and watch history be made!!!

Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

I have found myself coming into contact with a lot of women complaining about their bodies and what they do or do not have. I watch shows on t.v. like "How to look good naked" or "How do I look?" that promote women to looking better on the inside and outside. I went to their websites and read some of the comments and to be truthfully honest, I felt sadness overtake me. Some women downright hated the way their body looked. They have husbands whom they will not take their clothes off in front of. Some refuse to look in the mirror because it is a source of self-hatred. Some women blame their kids because of the stretch marks or weight they have gained. I see real life women hiding their beauty underneath big clothes, frumpy frocks, outlandish makeup, or just slumped in depression. I noticed that a lot of women tend to focus on what is wrong with them instead of what is right with them.

We are women! We are supposed to be different! Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Some of us are tall, some short. Some of us are thin, some big. Some of us are flat chested, big breasted to no butt or big butt. Some have long hair, short hair, blonde hair, black hair. We have small feet to big feet or a well toned body to a jell-o mold. Whatever you look like, embrace it. Love it. Dress it. Caress it. Cuddle it. Squeeze it. Hold it. Stop comparing yourself to other women or magazines. It is called airbrushing (technology to make flaws disappear only in print). You can get those improvements too if you were on the cover of a national magazine. Look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Show off! Tell yourself everyday that "Damn, I look good!" Hold your head up when you walk. Strut your stuff. Exude confidence in yourself to where others will take notice. What matters most is how you see yourself. It doesn't take a lot of money to build up your outer appearance. A few key pieces in your wardrobe and a new hair cut can make the world of difference. A crisp white shirt and some nice fitting black pants and shoes can make you look like a new woman. Watch and see how your attitude begins to change. When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, you do good.

Don't get me wrong, outer image is not all of the solution. Women have got to work on the inside as well as the outside. I just want women to know that you don't have to look broke even if you are broke. Don't dress that part and feel sorry for yourself. No pity parties allowed! Dress the part of knowing that God will come through. Dress the part of God's blessings in your life. Dress up like you know God is up to something. Dress for expectation. Dress for motivation. Dress for inspiration. Just Dress It!!!

Lyrics to "Work That" by Mary J Blige :

Work your thing out (out, out) [x4]

Cause so many you girls

I hear you been running

From the beautiful queen that you can be becommin

You can look in my palm and see the storm coming

Read the book of my life and see of overcomming

Just because the length of your hair ain't long

And they often criticize you for your skin tone

Wanna hold your head high cause you a pretty woman

Get your front way stride home and keep it going

Girl, live your life

I just wanna be myself

Don't sweat girl be yourself

Follow me, follow me, follow me

Girl be yourself

Guess what I'll be myself

(And I grew to love it)

(Work your thing out...)

Let em get mad

They're gonna hate any weight

Don't you get that

Doesn't matter if you go along with their plan

They'll never be happy

Cause they're not happy with themselves

(I am. work what you got...)

I'm talking about things that I know

(I am. work what you got...)

It's okay show yourself some love

(I am. work what you got...)

Don't worry about who's saying what

(It's gonna be fine work what you got)

Work what you got

Feeling great because the light's on me

Celebrating the things that everyone told me

Would never happen but

God has put his hands on me

And ain't a man alive could ever take it from me

Workin with what I got I gotta

Keep on taking care of myself

I wanna live long

Ain't never ashamed what life did to me

Wasn't afraid to change

Cause it was good for me

I wanna

(I just wanna be myself)

I just wanna be

(don't sweat girl be yourself)

Don't sweat girl

(Follow me, follow me, follow me I be myself)

Follow me follow me

(Guess what I'll be myself)

(And I grew to love it)

(Work your thing out)

Let em get mad

They gonna hate any weight

Don't you get that

Doesn't matter if you go along with their plan

They'll never be happy

Cause their not happy with themselves

(I am. work what you got...)

I'm talking about things that I know

(I am. work what you got...)

It's okay show yourself some love

(I am. Work what you got)

Don't worry about who's saying what

(It's gonna be fine work what you got)

Work what you got

(Work that, work that, work that, don't' hold back just be yourself)

Work that work that

Work that work that don't hold back

Oooh Work you head girl(work you thing out)

Work that job girl

Work what you got

(I am. work what you got...)

I'm talking about things that I know

(I am. work what you got...)

It's okay show yourself some love

(I am. Work what you got)

Don't worry about who's saying what

(It's gonna be fine work what you got)

Work what you got

(work that work that work that don't hold back just be yourself)

Work it out work it out ladies

Work that work that

Work that work that don't hold back

(Work your thing out)

Oooh Work what you got

Confirmation!

Small Straws In A Soft Wind by Marsha Burns -- October 17, 2008:
Make a concerted effort to turn your focus from politics, economy and world events to seek My face, says the Lord. All of these concerns will steal your joy and peace. Do you not know that I alone am in charge of your world? And, I will bring to pass everything that is necessary to establish My kingdom in the earth. My government and authority are above all that you can conceive of in the natural realm. So, I say, shift your focus upward and trust that My order is being established.
Isaiah 55:9 "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts."

In Times of Trouble

Matthew 9:29...“According to your faith let it be to you.”

As I watch t.v., read the news, and listen to friends talk about what the world is going through today, I get a sense of minimal faith. Now with the economy, the war, the personal struggles within each one of us, it comes a time when we need to look at our faith. Yes, I see everything that is going on around me but I can't and won't let that shake me. Focusing on the negative only brings about fear and God definitely is not the creator of it. Our trust should not be in the president or the government but in our God who continues to show us his everlasting love. When the attacks of the enemy emerge, we are to seek God's help and believe that God will bring us through it.

As I read the story of the Canaanite woman and her faith to press towards Jesus to heal her daughter of demon possession (Matthew 15:21-28), I know that's what we need to do. She didn't let the disciples deter her from her mission. She knew in her heart that Jesus was the only one that could help her. She persisted and when she faced Jesus, He tested her faith. That obstacle didn't stop her either. She was determined to have Jesus heal her daughter. This is the type of faith that we need to illustrate when the obstacles of life start to weigh us down. We have to place our trust in Christ. We cannot give up, turn around or turn away from it.

Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. It is an act towards our future. Although we are losing money, loved ones, houses, and a sense of commitment from others, we must not lose our faith. This is our test. This is our time to go to God and really surrender our life and our sins and diligently seek Him. If you look at notable women in the past like Rosa Parks, Harriet Tubman, Sojourner Truth, Mary McLeod Bethune, etc., who did not let anything discourage their fight for their purpose, we certainly can't give up on what God says in His word. We must position ourselves to strengthen our faith by reading the word until it fills the core of our soul. We must remain steadfast and remember that with God all things are possible. Our reward is waiting for us in the future and in heaven. Have the assurance that God will answer your prayer and He is still in control of our lives.

Today, be sure to honor God and exercise your faith in Him for a better, brighter future no matter what the world says. We are living in a season of disarray but God is the only certainty that I know will never let us down. Don't be afraid to live your life based on the negativity surrounding you but live your life based on the God that is within you.

Hebrews 11:6 "But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him."

Follow Your Dream!

Philippians 1:6 "being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;"

Lately I have been getting questions and conversations regarding following dreams and doing what you really want and would love to do. I have many friends who have told me that they would really like to be a teacher, hair stylist, or football coach but are stuck doing other "jobs" that basically just pays the bills. I myself am working a 9 to 5 job right now knowing that my passion is in the fashion industry as a fashion stylist. I was always told that a "j.o.b." is just over broke. We are working for someone else and making them loads of money while we are sitting miserable on getting by. We are all in our 30s wondering what are we going to do with our life because we feel as though we are to our breaking point. I don't know if we are in a mid life crisis or God is pulling on us to get up and follow our dreams in which He has instilled in us. If we all had the opportunity to rewind our life and go back, we would have chased our dream and went a different direction whether another major in school or not listening to any outside influences. Since we can't do that, we just have to start again. Everyday is a new day and we need to make a declaration first that Today is the First Day of the Rest Our Life.

So my passion, dream, or vision (whatever you want to call it) has been really hitting me in my heart lately. I started to do research on how I can get into the fashion industry. There is a school program available now at the Art Institute but that is a whole 4 year degree program. I have a bachelors and masters degree already in a totally different field but I don't want to start all over to obtain another degree. I really am not ready to do homework, tests, projects, etc. Even though this seems like the logical way to go, I just feel there is another route that I can take. I can't shake this dream that I have nor do I want to. God is really trying to tell me something. It is my duty to push towards this desire and accomplish all that God has planned for me to do.

Jesus says, "I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly."

So why aren't we living in the abundance that God has promised us? What are we waiting for? Is it procrastination? Are we using excuses to validate our laziness? Are we living in fear? Is it a lack of self confidence? Are past failures and disappointments keeping us from going for the gold of living the God given dream?

These are the enemies tricks. Don't listen to the enemy. His purpose is to get us off track and bombard us with distractions that he thinks will side track us. The enemy will purposely put these stumbling blocks in our path just to take away our focus and be entangled in false prophecies. God has given us these visions for our life and we need to press our way through to our dreams and take action to do whatever we can to live the life we are promised. As we run this race and move in the direction that God wants us to, our life will be blessed in ways that we can't imagine. So I want everyone who has a dream, including myself, to first write it down (Habakkuk 2:2) and then pray about the steps to be taken in accomplishing this God given vision. Be specific and then trust God according to your faith and be bold, courageous, and confident to achieving these goals. God will send us the resources we need in order to move forward. It is up to us to put in the work (James 2:26) and watch God bless us beyond measure. God Bless.

Lyrics to "Get Up" by Mary Mary:

Layin' Low

Rest n' pause

Sleeping long

Slow motion

Gonna do

Shoulda, coulda, woulda done

Excuses

What are you afraid of?

Don't you know what you're made of?

One of God's greatest creations

Take this invitation now

Get Up'

Cause you can't stop

Get Up

Got a lot to do

24 hours

Almost gone

Get Up

Don't sit there

Get Up

If you wanna get there

Clocks don't stop and

Time won't wait

He said

She said

They said

What do you say?

It's your dreams

Your choice

Your time

Your life

So don't you

Don't you

Miss it

What are you afraid of?

Don't you know what you're made of?

One of God's greatest creations

Take this invitation now

Get Up

Cause you can't stop

Get Up

Got a lot to do

24 hours

Almost gone

Get Up

Don't sit there

Get Up

If you wanna get there

Clocks don't stop and

Time won't wait

Welcome to the rest of your life

From now on, just try

To live more, want more, work a little harder

Dance more, laugh more, be a little smarter

Hug a little longer, love a little stronger

You've been down but now it's time to

Get Up

Cause you can't stop

Get Up

Got a lot to do

24 hours

Almost gone

Get Up

Don't sit there

Get Up

If you wanna get there

Clocks don't stop and

Time won't wait [x2]

One more time,

Say...Get Up [x9]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!!

Psalm 118:24 "This is the day the LORD has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it. "

A Time to Heal

Romans 5:1-5

1 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. 3 And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

I just want to send out a little prayer and encouragement to the victims of Hurricane Ike and the family of Tony Gradney. There are so many down here in Galveston and Houston (and surrounding areas) who have been severely damaged and wounded by hurricane Ike that I don't want to see anyone lose hope. The family of Tony Gradney has been hurt by this senseless death of a 23 year old young man who was a glowing light in his family. I just want to say don't let these joy killers steal your joy in the midst of this storm. God is going to bring you through. The enemy may be trying to throw you off course but God has the last and final word. Keep strong in your faith. Speak victory over your life. Be courageous in this fight. The God you serve is a mighty God who can do anything. These circumstances will not bring you down, NO WAY! I just pray for every ones safety, physically and mentally. Don't lose heart because there is a brighter day coming. Keep pressing forward to what God has in store for you and keep reminding yourself that trouble don't last always. Keep praying for God to restore you and your families. Believe and hope for the best. Expect a miracle. When God brings you to it He will definitely bring you through it. Keep the faith.

Love Always

We Are Family!

"One finger pointing the blame don't make no impact.
But you ball up all them fingers into a fist...
and you can strike a mighty blow.
This family got to be that fist."

Mama Joe from the movie "Soul Food"

Soul Food

The film centers on the trials of an extended African-American family, held together by longstanding family traditions which begin to fade as serious problems take center stage.

Set in Chicago, Illinois, Soul Food, told through the eyes of 11-year-old Ahmad (Hammond), follows the trials of the Joseph family, a close-knit African American family that gets together to have Sunday dinner together every week, with plenty of soul food to go around. Mother Joseph (Hall) has three daughters, who each have had varying success in life: oldest daughter Teri (Williams) has suffered relationship problems ever since her younger sister Maxine (Fox) stole and married Teri's old boyfriend, Kenny (Sams). Teri's current husband, Miles (Beach), desires to follow his dreams of being an R&B musician. Youngest Joseph daughter Robin (Long)--nicknamed "Bird"--has just opened a barbershop/beauty parlor, and the family is uneasy about her marriage to Lem (Phifer), an ex-convict.

These problems are complicated when Mother Joe, the glue that holds the family together, suffers a debilitating stroke during an operation to amputate her leg (since she was a diabetic) and slips into a coma. Without her guidance, the family begins to fall apart. Teri takes in her troubled cousin Faith (Ravera), who begins flirting with Miles. As an ex-con, Lem cannot find a job, so Bird makes an uneasy deal with her ex-boyfriend Simuel St. James (Mel Jackson) to get Lem a job, but, a series of events eventually land him in prison again . By contrast, Kenny and Maxine are reasonably stable, and expecting their third child. Ahmad, Kenny and Maxine's oldest child, is worried about the state of his extended family, and conspires to find a way to bring them all back together.

As I reflect on my current situation with my own family, this story line came to my mind. You see, I have my own big mama. A 73 year old woman who birthed 6 kids, 4 girls and 2 boys (1 deceased), and then adopted 2 girls. She is loving, open hearted, caring, lively, and best of all a firecracker that can not be stopped. She single handily raised all her kids while working 2 jobs to support them with very little help. Now in her older age, she still helps the kids and the brood of grandchildren and great grandchildren. She is our rock of that holds this family together. Without her house as our stomping ground and her love to get us through, who knows where this family will be. The 4 girls that my big mama has represent Teri, Maxine, and Bird intertwined. Yes, each of the 4 girls has their own personality but you can tell that my big mama is etched somewhere in their soul.

My mother D is the "Maxine" of the bunch. She loves her family, especially me, and will do anything to keep them growing. Well, my father A was "Kenny" (now deceased); holding his own with his own business and sometimes my mother was the housewife. My mother "Maxine" is a rocket on her own. She stands up for what she believes in as long as you don't mess with her family, you are all good. She cares very deeply for big mama and checks on her everyday. She often butt heads with her sister D better know as "Teri" more than the others.

My aunt D is "Teri". The highly driven business woman who strives to have it all. She has gone through husbands like flowing water but for the better of herself. "Teri" will always strive to be on top no matter what it takes. One of "Teri's" famous quotes from the movie that stuck with me is about her money: "She is not the ATM, Automatically Teri's Money". As a family, my "Teri" will help out in any way that she can but the family has got to realize that she is not the ATM. There is a lot of goodness in her heart. She is explosive at times, or should I say bi-polar, but the love she gives, when she's in a good mood, can not be measured by money.

My aunt L is "Bird". She is the youngest and spoiled rotten. She was also a hairstylist just like "Bird" in the movie. Now my ''Bird" has had her share of men, never married, but the one who took her through the most was also an ex-con or should I say now-con. My "Bird" has had her share of ups and downs but she tries to keep the peace between the sisters or just stay out of it. She is like a cousin because of her young age and being raised around her nieces and nephews but wants the recognition of an aunt. Go figure! If only we can do something about that "mommy's little girl" syndrome. My big mama can't or shall I say won't move without her and vice versa.

My aunt J is........well lets just say she is a special brand of big mama. She is the oldest of all the kids. She is kind of far off from the family but is close to the 1 brother. Don't get me wrong she does come around the family but only for family functions. I don't think it is her but I do think it is her husband. He is controlling in all the wrong ways. My aunt J used to have that fiery behavior that's exhibited by all the sisters but it seems lately that her fire has burned out. She seems to be going the opposite direction of the rest of the sisters. She seems as though she doesn't care about herself anymore. Whether it be clothes, hair, cars, or the house; she has fallen into a slump. I pray for her return but until she gets tired, prayer is my only answer.

As I compared the 4 girls in my family with Soul Food's girls, I get that emotional feeling of a family that is loving and crazy at the same time. My aunt L and I had this conversation earlier about uniting our family again to be closer and doing things more as a family so the little ones can get to know each other more. I would love to have Sunday dinners of soul food (fried chicken, greens, black eyed peas, cornbread, etc) but how can we if some members want to participate and some won't? How can we come together as a family and show love to each other without any drama? I know not all will get along but can we do this for the sake of family? I love my family with all my heart but it seems as though we have drifted apart and our "rock" of the family is getting older and unable to cook those unforgettable meals. I wish the oldest, my aunt J, would take more of a lead role but she has her own issues, understandably. I wish that we all could and would take a lead role, without any excuses or hindrances, that includes me.

This is something that I pray about often. I want my family to come together and show more unity. We don't have an "Ahmad" in our story to con us to come together or maybe we all can act as "Ahmad", without the cons, and bring this Soul Food story together as it should be.

Family is an important treasure to me. Family is something everyone needs to get through this thing called life. Family is what keeps us going even though we may not realize it. Family is like an orchestra or band with each of us playing an instrument to our own tune but when we get together, we make a beautiful song. We may not be the Huxtables or the Brady Bunch, but I am proud to say that we are Big Mama's Bunch.

"Although our branches grow in different directions, our roots remain as one"

To all my family of Big Mama's Bunch and beyond, I LOVE YOU!

Reflection:

Think about your family and ways to bring unity to your family. I surely will be activating my faith and dreams into reality with family bonding ideas. God bless the families all over the world.

B-E-L-I-E-V-E

Mark 9:24 “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!”

I am in a season of tests and trials. In my many circumstances of attack from the devil, one thing stands true: I MUST TRUST AND BELIEVE WHAT GOD SAYS. When I look over my life right now and see how much that I am dealing with now, I can't help my human nature when it starts to sway. I tend to put a spotlight on my situations and make them the center of attention. So I am making it a point to strengthen and empower my belief in these uncertain times.

One thing I do notice from a lot of people, including myself, is when the storms of life start raging around them and in them, their belief becomes shaky. I see uncertainty all over from not knowing what to do or how to do it. We know our God is faithful to His word but it seems like an everyday battle just to believe. When things are going right in our lives, we tend to, of course, be happier and have no worries. We profess our beliefs at the drop of a hat and smile bright as the sunny days in Houston. Then comes those times of despair when we get the dark clouds over our heads and rainy days seem to follow us around. The boat gets to rocking and our belief goes overboard to drown in despair. It is always easier said than done to believe that your situation is going to work in your favor. It is a hard task at hand to focus on God when it seems as though the devil is having a party in your house. It is difficult when trying times try you from every angle and push you to the edge of giving up. Yes, we are perplexed and bewildered at a point in time but we must remember that when the enemy is in our life on the attack, believing God is our only weapon for war.

Belief is what we choose to do everyday. Belief is not something that we put to the side once we have finished playing with it. Belief comes with our faith. Belief is what we need to seek out and grasp with our hearts. If I were to put action with Believe this is what I suggest:

B - Boldness - Declare in your situation that you will trust in God and hope for the better. Bravery comes from your assurance and God's possibilities.

E - Excitement - Raise your head to the sky and don't be down in the dumps. God has a great plan for your life.

L - Love - Your hearts desire will come through with God's love towards your circumstances. Love the lessons learned.

I - Inspire - Reach out and help others who may be going through what you already experienced. Don't take your problem as an assault against you but receive it as a weapon for your future instructions.

E - Enjoyment - Live life to the fullest. Benefit from the abundance that God has promised you.

V - Victorious - Claim the victory in your situation even if you are still going through it. Take what God is showing you to build yourself up.

E - Endurance - Don't give up. Use your faith and let God fight your battles. The road may be long but God rewards the righteous.

Mark 9:23 Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.”

Gratefulness

Dear Heavenly Father,

I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Father, thank you for your grace and mercy which endures forever. I expected a miracle and you provided one right on time. Thank you Father for my financial blessing. Thank you for my healing. Thank you for my family and friends. Thank you for my job and my car that gets me to my destination. Thank you for my roof over my head and food to eat. Thank you for seeing my needs and providing every last one of them. Thank you for not letting me slip away from you in my storm. Thank you for helping my unbelief when I thought it was no way out. I truly love and appreciate what you have done for me and what you are doing for me. Father, I want to recognize you for who you are at all times. You are my Father, my provider, my healer, my way maker, my shelter, my keeper, my everything at all times. Thank you Father for not leaving my side. I will not only praise your name in times of trouble but I will praise you when everything is going right. Father I want to be in your presence at all times. When I ask for guidance, you step in and lead me all the way. Thank you! When I am not in the best of mental thoughts, you step in and remind me not to focus on negative things or circumstances around me but to stay my mind on you. Father, I thank you for that. Father, I know I am not perfect in all my ways but you remind me to acknowledge you at all times and you will direct my path. I thank you for that. Father I may not pray like I should or spend enough time with you but you intercede on my behalf anyway. Father I may not have the best of attitudes but you see fit to bless me anyhow. I place all my cares upon you, for you have rescued me and Father I just want to thank you. You are my Father who sees my faults and still acknowledge that I am your child and you will not leave me or forsake me. Father I will exalt your name and give thanksgiving all the days of my life because I know what you are and who you are to me. Father I just wanted to take this time to give you thanks for everything you have done and will do in my honor. Father, there is no one like you. I will not put anything or anyone above you because you are just that good to me. Father, thank you for all my blessings that you have bestowed upon me with favor. Thank you for filling me with joy and peace. Thank you for filling me with fruits of the spirit and showing me how to utilize them as I show myself to the world on your behalf. I receive your Word open-hearted with such expectation. Father I love you because of who you are and what you have been to me, loving me and caring for me all my life.

MY FATHER, THANK YOU, YOU ARE TRULY AMAZING!

Something Great is About to Happen!!!

Wow!!! My blessing is on the way!!! These past couple of weeks have been stormy and rough but my God, my God, my blessing must be big!!! I heard in a song "the bigger the trial, the bigger the blessing". I just know it and I can feel it. I am confident that the Lord is about to do some things in my life that even I had not predicted. You know why??? Because this is what I expect Him to do! Yes! I expect God to come through for me. I expect God to increase my finances. I expect God to move my enemies out of the way. I expect God to heal me. I expect God to follow through on His promises. I expect God to mold me into what He wants me to be. I expect God to nurture and protect me. I expect God to give me peace while the storms are raging. I expect God to give me beauty for my ashes. I expect God to be faithful to me. I expect God to see me through to my dreams and vision. Yes! I expect, expect, expect!!!

I have the confidence in God to boldly declare what I expect from Him. My relationship with Him is why I have this confidence. I am confident in His ability to do all things. My confidence begins with my faith in God. I know who my Father is; He is my deliverer, my healer, my way maker, my protector, my confidant. He is a God who I can call my "daddy" in times of need. He keeps me in line when I start to veer off. He makes a way out of no way. My God has my back. Another confidence booster is my faith in His word. His word is hidden in my heart. His word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path. His word is flawless. His word is living.

This confidence should be in all who have a relationship with Christ. When our confidence is truly enveloped within Christ, we can have the expectation that God is up to something and that something is greatly received. We should be able to truly enjoy life without looking at our circumstances or believing the things that we see. Trusting God's plans for our life and the promises He has made is what we need to focus on. So today, I am expecting God to do more than I have ever expected. I have raised my expectations to what God has already said I can have and will have as long as I obey. I will believe Him for abundance; not only in money but in life. I will be blessed coming in and going out. I have hope and confidence that He will see me through according to my faith and no matter what it may look like now........I will expect a miracle!!!

Forgiveness = Freedom

"To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you" -C.S. Lewis

Today, I am really dealing with something heavy. It is something that I seem to not let go of. This is something that my heart just can't seem to grasp. It is FORGIVENESS. I have been stressing about someone who has done me wrong and that bitterness pill is setting in. Along with bitterness comes hate, disgrace, revenge, and hurt. I have been back and forth in my mind on how to forgive this person but I still see the wrong that was done against me. I still feel the hurt and betrayal from this person. Forgiveness is my obligation as a Christian to grant. I know through God's grace that I have received forgiveness of my sins but how is it that I can't bestow that same forgiveness on the one who wronged me?

Is it me or is this one of the hardest things to do in life. I feel like I would rather go to the dentist or doctor than forgive the person who has wronged me. This is an uncomfortable position that I am in because

1. I want God's forgiveness for my sins and I don't want Him to stop forgiving me

2. My negative emotions are getting the best of me

3. As my commitment to Christ, I feel as though I am in disobedience

These are the things that I just can't get past in order to start the process of healing and reconciliation. How do I forgive someone who has wronged me who I feel like has gotten away with it? How do I forgive a so called "friend" who betrayed me? How do I forgive this person if they haven't asked for it?

This week I have been repeatedly reminded to let go of the past and move on through to forgiveness that it has taken a toll on me. What I mean is that I feel stuck. I feel as if everything around me has stopped moving or is in slow motion, my business, my job, my life, etc. I feel that the enemy has laid the foundation for this hatred in my heart and now I am fighting to renew my faith. The one thing I do realize is that until I choose to have faith, display love, and release the past; forgiveness is not going to happen. The doors of opportunity will remain closed. The pathway to healing will stall. The peace of God will be held up in this storm. I have to learn from the past experiences, less the stress involved, in order to gain wisdom into what God is showing me. I need to move past my circumstances and gain the vision that God has before me. I have to lay my feelings aside and trust God to help me out.

Forgiveness is God's extended mercy. Its main ingredient is love. It leads me to a doorway where restoration and understanding are present. Although the gift of forgiveness is free for us, Jesus paid the price with His blood. As a child of God, He has supplied us with an overflow of forgiveness through His love and sacrifice. Once we humble ourselves and confess our sins then will he completely remove our sins and remembers them no more. So why is forgiving this person so hard for me? It would really take a miracle right now for this to happen. I don't want to stop receiving forgiveness for my sins just because I won't do what He has asked me to do. I don't want this person living in my head, rent free, for years before I make up my mind to evict him. To forgive is not easy but I know it is possible. I have to let go of this grudge and pray for this person who has hurt me. This is my journey to healing. I desire to live at peace with God so I have to set this person free, and myself, if I want God to set me free from my past. This is my greatest challenge today but I wanted to make it known that it can be done and you are not alone. As I write this I am helping myself. A forgiving spirit blesses both myself and others.

So remember this, FORGIVENESS is the gift that is necessary to share as often as possible for healing and to be made whole as God has granted us this responsibility. I am doing this for myself, my health, and my well being.

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you" - Lewis Smedes

Condemn Me Not!

YOU LIED. YOU CHEATED. YOU BACK STABBED. YOU DID DRUGS. YOU PROSTITUTED. YOU STOLE. YOU KILLED. YOU DESTROYED. YOU DECEIVED. YOU CURSED.

So who saved you?

Grace & Mercy

Look at her! Look at Grace. She is God's special gift to us. She is something that is given to us when we don't deserve her. She follows us. She upholds us. She supports us. She sees us through life, death, and our darkest moments. She is all around us. She is forever upon us. She provides hope for the future. She gives us power to leave our sin in the past. We can't do anything to stop her. Oh, but wait a minute! Grace is not by herself. She is accompanied by Mercy. She is God's compassion on us. She doesn't judge. She helps us. These two of a kind deserve of our thanks. They deserve our praise everyday.

What are you condemning yourself and others for today?

Are you that woman in John 8 who was brought in by the Pharisees as she was caught in the act of adultery? It was commanded that she be stoned but Jesus said ...“He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” Even though your sin may not have been adultery, you may have been prosecuted in front of peers for your sin. Your stoning may have been the destroying of your reputation. The pain of being caught or exposed may have hurt so deeply that you can't bring yourself to look forward and not be afraid. You may think that everyone who looks at you may know what you were really about. When your deepest fear and need of saving is near, guess what? Jesus steps right in! He is willing to forgive you, writing your sin in dust for it to blow away. He paid the price for us and He provides us with the reassurance that we can't do anything to stop His grace & mercy.

So how do you thank God for His Grace & Mercy?

Simply, just say "thank you". Remember this one important thing, God does not condemn you for your past sins as long as you have repented, he forgives you. You have left behind your sin. Grace & mercy have given you undeserved favor, unexpected acceptance, and unconditional love. We do not see these two watching over us but we can surely walk with our head held high and believe that God has poured out His grace & mercy. Don't ever feel as though you are being condemned for past sins. Don't ever allow yourself to condemn yourself for things in the past that have been erased. Don't bring up old dirt! Know that the Lord is your shepherd, you do walk in the shadow of death but you will not fear evil because His goodness and mercy will follow you ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE. Make the choice today and receive grace & mercy into your heart and thank God for his gracious gifts.

Who's Controlling Your Anger?

On the heels of anger, I want to go a little bit deeper into what God really wants us to do and how He wants us to release. I have seen that this anger issue can cause a great deal of pain, whether noticed or unnoticed. As I revert back to the bible I find an angry woman, Athaliah, in 2 Chronicles 21-23. She is filled with anger and will stop at nothing to obtain power and destroy God's people. She even killed her own grandchildren to make sure she was in control. It was a happy day in the city when she was slain and her reign of terror came to an end. This type of violence and vengeance is seen throughout the world today as there are many "Athaliah's" that have lashed out at everyone from the realities of their life. Some "Athaliah's" deny that anything is wrong with them. It is often someone else's fault for their anger problem. It is someone else who caused them to lash out. They are always the victim. They reacted instead of acting in a way that God suggests. Are these excuses really viable or are we trapping ourselves in our own anger?

I know it can be difficult to let go of the worldly anger, but letting go is the only way for Jesus to truly help you and for you to show your love for Him. Sometimes it's our past that releases unhealthy anger issues into our present, and sometimes future, which can be detrimental to our lives. Living in the past with anger, can only leave you in the past with the same anger. Nothing good will come about just unhealthy patterns. As believers in Christ, we have to stand firm and trust God to overtake our enemies by having them become our footstools. No amount of anger or vengeance that the enemy has against us will throw a monkey wrench in Gods plans. His plan is more definite that the enemy's plans. So what can we do now that will show God our true and undying commitment to Him? Matthew 5:43-44 "You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." I know this is easier said than done, but be honest and ask God to help you in this area and watch the reaction you get from your enemies based on your loving action. They will not know what has happened, but you will.

Well, what if we decide to try and handle the situation ourselves? It's called rebellion. Then, if we become rebellious, what are we telling God? That we are in control. That we have authority over our lives. That we are the ones who know the plan. NO! We are defying and disobeying God and planting a seed of discontentment. We are seeking our own satisfaction and falling short of God's purpose. We then become blind to the fact that God has a plan for our life and we give up any resolution that God has in store. When we trust in the face of challenging circumstances and desire His outcome, our thoughts of rebellion will soon fade away.

So what is the answer to our anger? Trust in Him at ALL times and have self-control. Choose to control your anger with love; loving thoughts, loving actions, and loving feelings. Don't allow anyone but God to have that much control over you by submitting to His will. Saying yes to God and no to outside enticements is a strength that activates our healthy gifts from God. Our self control is a personal discipline that shows God that yes we are obedient to you and yes we will take a stand for you. We have to be "self-controlled" in order to stay focused on the kingdom of God. Relinquish your own control and anger and acknowledge that God has the final control. Study the word of God, meditate on it daily, pray for peace in the midst, and exercise God's will in your life. Now that is what I call self-control!

The Danger of Anger

Ephesians 4: 26-27 "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

In this world today, there seems to be a lot of anger, including some in my world. I really had to buckle down and see what is the root cause of this anger and what is it doing to me. Anger is the result of some inequity that is happening in your life that seems to have taken over with little to no control. It is an energy that is draining us of a lasting relationship with the Lord. As I asked God to lead me to scriptures regarding anger, he led me to the one stated above. Now I had to ask myself, how would anger lead me to sin? Well easily! I easily wanted to get revenge and these evil thoughts came upon me as soon as the devil entered the situation in my mind. How can I get back at this person? How can I ruin them just like they have tried to ruin me? I really seen how anger definitely can lead to sin. All of these evil thoughts can easily persuade me to sin and then I am held accountable for my actions. For every action, there will be a consequence that I will have to face, either with man or with God.

So what good does it do to get angry and sin? None! Is my anger controllable? Well, yes it is! I had to really pray about the situation. You see, the devil had a really strong foothold on me. I had all kinds of evil thoughts and actions that I can do to that person. I was planning it all out. The how, when, and where was taking over me like a possession of the devil. But God didn't see fit to let that happen. I had to calm down, see the real picture, and really pray long and hard for God to enter. Lord, what is happening to me? Why do I feel the need for revenge? Will this help solve anything or is this just an instant satisfaction to my flesh? All I am going to do is get myself into really bad trouble that I just don't need. So does this leave the situation in limbo? No, God tells us to trust in Him all the time. He will not fail you. He will not leave you or forsake you. He says vengeance is His, so why do I have to take it in my own hands? That is another aspect that evolves around control. Controlling the situation when all I need to do is cast my cares upon Him. He doesn't need my help, so why do I feel the need to sit on the throne with Him?

We all go through situations that can lead to anger but I want you to think about acting rather than reacting to the situation. Don't react to the situation hastily and get all caught up in revenge and seeking out your own vengeance. The danger will explode right in your face with a result that is not pleasing. Instead, act in a way that you know God will be pleased with. Go to God in prayer, honestly, and let Him handle all of your worries, resentment, anger, and any other issues that may be causing harm to your inner being. Whether you know it or not, anger can lead to health problems as well as spiritual and mental problems. You have to remember that you are His child and He is your Father, and just as any father protects his child, He will do that plus more. He will do everything in His power to shield you from danger and all you have to do is trust. So when you feel the anger erupting inside, take a long breather, pray wherever you are, and let God handle the rest. He hears and knows how you feel, so don't take it into your own control. Let God be God and watch how the situation will be resolved in your favor. Anger is a robber of your faith, so don't let the devil get any more strongholds on you. Choose today to release the anger and activate your faith!

Psalm 4:1-8

1 Answer me when I call to you, O my righteous God. Give me relief from my distress; be merciful to me and hear my prayer.

2 How long, O men, will you turn my glory into shame? How long will you love delusions and seek false gods? Selah
3 Know that the LORD has set apart the godly for himself; the LORD will hear when I call to him.

4 In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Selah

5 Offer right sacrifices and trust in the LORD.

6 Many are asking, "Who can show us any good?" Let the light of your face shine upon us, O LORD.
7 You have filled my heart with greater joy than when their grain and new wine abound.

8 I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.

High Maintenance vs. Vanity

I recently posed this question to some of my friends & family regarding high maintenance vs. vanity; what is the difference? I just wanted to know their opinions. I have been called high maintenance several times and there is no doubt about it; I am. First, let me give you the Webster's dictionary definition of both. High maintenance is not defined in Webster's but when I looked up high maintenance as a whole word it brought me to high mindedness which is elevated principles and feelings. Then I decided to break down high maintenance. High can mean a lot of things depending on how you use it but relating to what I am talking about; rich in quality, exalted in character, of greater degree, amount, cost, value, or content than average, usual, or expected, etc. Maintenance is defined as the upkeep of property or equipment. Vanity is inflated pride in oneself or one's appearance.

Here are some of the comments I received from my friends regarding the difference between the two:

• High maintenance is an accomplished standard or level that is reached and maintained with the expectation of excellence in all things.


• High Maintenance is just the fact that you like nice things, very very expensive things; and expects them from others. You don’t appreciate what someone buys you if it is not up to par with what you would buy for yourself. But at the same time you will help others if need be. In other words it’s not all about you but you like and won’t except anything but the best


• Vanity, in my opinion, is where you are stuck on yourself for no apparent reason. Thinking you are superior to others without any credentials.


• Vanity - Excessive pride in one's appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.; character or quality of
  being vain; conceit:

So when someone calls me high maintenance I am definitely owning up to the definition of one who enjoys rich quality and I am especially interested in my daily upkeep and I do have elevated principles and feelings. So is there anything wrong with that? I don't think so. Just because I like the finer things in life and expect the finer things in life doesn't mean that I am better than anyone else. As women of God, we all should expect God's favor on our life and expect to be treated with a matter of respect. High maintenance is just a greater hope of things to come, almost like faith. Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. So if we don't anticipate anything good to come into our lives then where does that leave us? Just hopelessly caught up in a rut not believing for anything superior to happen to us. No, that is not what God wants us to do. He wants us to look forward to the goodness that He is giving us and be grateful for what He has already done and what He is going to do. He wants us to be elevated in our thinking and doing for His greater purpose. So, is high maintenance really that bad or has it been given a bad name?

Vanity is just the opposite of high maintenance in my opinion. As stated above, it is being stuck on yourself or having inflated pride. Vanity is the result of your own desire. Vanity is choosing to focus on yourself rather than focus on many of God's great gifts. Yes it is true that the beauty that each one of us has is one of God's gifts but it is all in how you use it. God's gifts to us are more than just a pretty face and body. He has adorned us with His image, love, and to be enveloped in all His glory is a gift in itself. Being vain will only cause women to miss out on the presence of God by concentrating on things that will come to an end one day. Vanity robs you of portraying the spirit of God while helping others get to the kingdom. The bible mentions many beautiful women who we can admire because of their appearance but their beauty is complimenting their inner spirit that shows God's love. Remember that it is not about the outer beauty but how the inner beauty reflects God's love, grace, and mercy. It is God's spirit that we want to personify and teach others to dwell in. So, do you know a person who is vain or are they just hiding their insecurities?

1 Peter 3:3-4 "Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God."

Happy Birthday Mama!!!

I just want to wish my wonderful mother a Happy 52nd Birthday today. I LOVE YOU!!!

Mother's Love

Her love is like an island

In life's ocean, vast and wide

A peaceful, quiet shelter

From the wind, the rain, the tide.

'Tis bound on the north by Hope,

By Patience on the West,

By tender Counsel on the South

And on the East by Rest.

Above it like a beacon light

Shine Faith, and Truth, and Prayer;

And thro' the changing scenes of life

I find a haven there.

- Author Unknown

The Image Is In The Heart

As I continue to talk about women and image, I came upon what the word says about our creation in His image means and what the world's definition of image as it relates to beauty. Of course we know that in Genesis 1:27 that we are created in His image but not in the way many believe. It is not about the clothes with labels that we admire or the jewels that adorn our body but God's image of us; love.

Yes, we are beautiful in our own right because He made us unique, but there are so many standards that have been set up to make us think that we are never good enough until we break down and give into the world's lies. This type of image has been seen in damaging results such as anorexia, bulimia, and unnecessary plastic surgery. Some women have tortured their God given bodies in order to "fit in". I have seen many proclaim that if I don't have a figure 8 body or the perfect nose then I am not pretty according to society's image. God has never put an affirmation in His word saying that if you don't have those six pack abs or those killer legs that I will not bless you. Ladies, please be aware that God is not concerned with those things. In 1 Peter 3:3-4; He tells us that beauty should not come from outward adornment but it should come from your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth. See, this is His definition of beauty which is discussed in the spiritual realm of things. We as women need to be assured of God's image for us, love, and how we can reciprocate that image into the world to bring about salvation.

So ladies if you really want to have a sense of great self image, reclaim the fact that beauty is not on the outside, even though you should know without the shadow of a doubt that you are lovely, but on the inside in your hearts where your actions relay the message of self love. Don't ever allow anyone to define what your beauty is. Tune out those negative voices of what humanity says is wrong with you in their eyes and tune in to those positive images of yourself clothed in God's love. You are created in His image with all the love, compassion, kindness, and humility as Christ has so don't let the demonic state of beauty tear you apart. Look in the mirror every morning and say "I am divinely and uniquely beautiful and no devil in hell or person of the world can justify my identity." Women you are just that loved by God and your heart should overflow with the love of God to everyone who is around you or has any contact with you. Love yourself just the way you are and truly own up to having a relationship with God and be renewed in His image.

Just Fine!

Watching t.v. and looking at magazines today sometimes displays a very unrealistic portrait of woman. We see beautifully sculpted bodies, flawless skin, flowing hair, etc. When we look at these images of women, we tend to compare ourselves and start feeling depressed when we don't have her eyes or her hair or her body. We only see the after but if we could see the before, we would think twice. We all have things that we would like to change or make better, but we shouldn't feel that our bodies are not up to par based on what we "think" we see. Yes, we have heard of air brushing and photo enhancements but that image we see today is being instilled into the very young lives of little girls who don't have a true sense of self. This is and can be damaging in the long run. So in order to appreciate what God is doing for your inner strength, you have to be grateful for your outer beauty.

When referring to our body insecurities as "flaws" what are we really saying and are these insecurities really "flaws" or society's opinion of what we should look like?

Well I want to talk about women and loving yourself, outside the self imposed image that is embedded in our minds. First we must realize where we come from and why we were created. We all know that God put Adam into a deep sleep, took out one of his ribs, closed him up and created another life: woman (Genesis 2:21-23). Now we were made to be suitable helpers. Helpers in the sense of a function not your worth. God created us as a trusted friend, a wife, and a confidante. This is our role. It is a celebration to be created with the expectation of encourager, supporter, and an empowered soul. We are God's strong tower for man. So don't lose yourself in man thinking you are inferior. You are a representation of humanity, you bring life and you nurture life. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and no other human being can take that away or lessen what God has made greater. You are a jewel worthy of greatness. Don't become entangled in this world's deception of your beauty. Instead focus on what God says about you, where you come from, and why you have come. You are a magnificent creation, inside as well as outside, destined to be the crowning glory of man. Rejoice in the thickness of your thighs, the way your butt looks in those jeans, the pout of your lips, the stature of your body.... it is you!

Walk around your house naked, in front of mirrors, and accept all that God has made you to be. Lift your heads up high and walk in boldness just as you are, a gorgeous woman who loves herself just as she is.

Mary J. Blige - Just Fine

So I like what I see when I’m looking at me

When I’m walking past the mirror

No stress through the night, at a time in my life

Ain’t worried about if you feel it

Got my head on straight, I got my mind right

I aint gonna let you kill it

You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just….. fine!

Relax, Relate, Release!

Matthew 11:28 "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. "

Well, I have reached the last letter of POWER and now all I can think about is rest. I broke down all the letters to show how much POWER you have inside. Today I want to talk about rest but not in a way that suggests to sleep or stop doing what you are doing for Jesus. I want to talk about resting for a new you.

As women of God who do so much in our lives with children, husbands, careers, etc., there has to be a time for us. Every day can seem like someone is depending on you to do something for them but at the end of the day you realize that you haven't done anything for yourself. Even God rested after creation on the seventh day so why not you?

We have to learn the principle of rest in our lives to release more important aspects of our journey.

During our resting periods, we must renew our strength to receive honor and glory from God. He recognizes all that we do for Him, but we don't want to become weary during the process. He wants us to remember what He has done for us and how He will repay you for your dilegence. There is no time like the present for restoration. Take this time to revive the vision for your life. Revisit your written dreams and goals and make sure you are on the right track. Take God's direction and restore your joy for the things that God is planning to do. Don't remain where you are and recognize the God is about to revitalize, refocus, and rebuild you. We all will rest well in heaven knowing that we are the righteous ones who God rewards with his riches.

Revelation 22:12 “And behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to give to every one according to his work."

Effective Expectations

Today is a day of empowerment! I am going to tell you what God will do through encouraging words that will excel you into God's vision for your life. I am eager for you to embrace the ever-lasting word of God. No excuses, only high expectations!

Things that God wants from us and will do for us:

Enable
Luke 1:74 to rescue us from the hand of our enemies, and to enable us to serve him without fear.

Encamp
Psalm 34:7 The angel of the LORD encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them.

Encourage
2 Timothy 4:2 Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.

Endure
Ecclesiastes 3:14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that men will revere him.

Enjoyment
Ephesians 6:3 that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.

Enlighten
Ephesians 1:18 I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints.

Entrust
2 Timothy 1:14 Guard the good deposit that was entrusted to you—guard it with the help of the Holy Spirit who lives in us.

Equip
Hebrews 13:21 equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

Establish
1 Chronicles 28:7 I will establish his kingdom forever if he is unswerving in carrying out my commands and laws, as is being done at this time.

Esteem
Proverbs 22:1 A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.

Eternal
John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

Ever-increasing
2 Corinthians 3:18 And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.

Everlasting
John 6:47 I tell you the truth, he who believes has everlasting life.

Ever-present
Psalm 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.

Evident
Philippians 4:5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.

Exalt
Matthew 23:12 For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.

Examine
2 Corinthians 13:5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test?

Example
1 Peter 2:21 To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.

Excellent
Titus 3:8 This is a trustworthy saying. And I want you to stress these things, so that those who have trusted in God may be careful to devote themselves to doing what is good. These things are excellent and profitable for everyone.

Exist
Hebrews 11:6 And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

Extol
Psalm 34:1 I will extol the LORD at all times; his praise will always be on my lips.
Psalm 109:30 With my mouth I will greatly extol the LORD; in the great throng I will praise him.
Psalm 111:1 Praise the LORD. I will extol the LORD with all my heart in the council of the upright and in the assembly.
Psalm 117:1 Praise the LORD, all you nations; extol him, all you peoples.
Psalm 145:10 All you have made will praise you, O LORD; your saints will extol you.

HALLELUJAH!!!!